Self checkout lines, dating apps, and online shopping killed the community. While these advancements are wonderful things, they have taken community out of many life occasions. We are becoming more isolated thanks to technology’s rationalism.
We can now partition different parts of our life in to different apps and processes. Need to book a flight? You don’t need to call a reservation booking phone number anymore. Date someone? Open an app. Got a cough? Search a medical database online. Compare bikes, skis, cars, boats, or motorcycles against one another? Find your answers online.
What about learning to fix your clogged sink, change your oil, make bruschetta, or build a deck? No need to go to your local hardware store, asking for advice on materials, tools, and processes. Just pull out that phone and search online. Want to have kids? IVF makes that possible without even sleeping with anyone.
We are training ourselves to not need other humans, and we seem okay with it.
Today you can find all the answers for your curiosities and problems, hardships and health via technology. Are we surprised we find ourselves increasingly anxious in large crowds, unable to carry on normal conversations with others, and bored by social settings easily without the right sort of alcohol or entertainment?
Death of Community and Rise of Loneliness
The brick and mortar places we once gathered at are replaced by virtual communities. Those virtual worlds, filled with negativity, trolls, and verbally abusive people, suck. People who normally practice self restraint in social settings can destroy each other from behind the safety of their electronic screens.
This destruction grows past technology, which is an extension of humanity, and breeds negativity in the real world. This lack of positivity creates further isolation and loneliness, as we grow annoyed and disgusted with the state of others, retreating further in to technology.
Our virtual worlds cannot hurt us like reality can.
In my search for community I found people starved for good conversation about topics that excite them, looking for positivity and community, belonging in a world where we are told we’re all special little, unique flowers.
Connecting with others is a key point to living a long and healthy life. Seek out physical places besides bars and restaurants where conversation and community can occur.
Go to bike shops, hardware stores, barbershops, and conferences. Make a point of socializing in a setting that does not involve a client and customer dynamic.
We complain life moves too fast, but we are making things move at that speed. How, when you partition your life in to efficient, technological actions, do you expect to slow down? Time is relative to our actions. Slow time by engaging in activities that make you pause. Activities like this either require connecting with nature or socializing. We will never speed up the pace of a good story told by another or the back and forth questions and answers of learning.
Despite technology, people are still the greatest resource we have. They bond with us, challenge us to improve, and teach us lessons through their growing pains in a way that technology has yet to accomplish. People change our lives, make our lives.