dealing with unknowns

The fear of dealing with unknowns keeps us from acting. Trapped by what we know, we are locked in the cage of consistency. We live and die by information, always having the answer to anything at the touch of our fingers. But, this addiction to answers and having a path always visible can paralyze us from taking action unless we know the end result. Security is limiting.

But, the thing about our little worlds is that they can die just as easily as they can start. In fact, the destruction of a world requires only that you remove yourself. Without attention a world passes away in to memory, replaced by something new, and in time you’ll display this new world for others to see.

When we pass away, within each of us worlds will die forever. This tragedy of loss is eased by how we’ve used these worlds, these small spheres of influence and control to create substance within others. Dying is as natural as living. This goes for people, for jobs, for experiences. Even though we understand death’s role in life, we still find it’s personal presence shocking.

Craving routine and consistency, we are not good at dealing with unknowns. Instead, we look at life with a Conquistadorian, shed light on the world sort of attitude. We want to control our spheres, because once upon a time we were all hurt by things we could not control. On at least one occasion we were powerless, as a person or event dominated our lives and brought pain. We believe that by controlling everything we will avoid this pain again. But, our control brings pain, because we hold expectations that do not align with reality.

We put the world in a box, and categorize it instead of dealing with unknowns. This type of thing makes sense to our rational minds. Every square peg should have a square hole. What does not compute is the realm of possibility where the unknown lives. The only thing about the unknown that we know for sure, or think we know for sure, is that pain exists there. We have our little worlds, and we want to hold on to them for as long as possible.

The unknown holds more than negative, though. The unknown is where our greatest potential lives still undiscovered. To experience such greatness in the unknown also means navigating a field of growing pains, which includes loss, failure, exhaustion, and a whole host of other “negative” things. These stretch marks shape and expand our horizons.

Our greatest fear is love, and the person we are afraid to love the most is ourselves. We are scared of all the negatives, and choose them over the potentiality within ourselves. We let our scars guide us, and if we just accepted that everything which rose in crescendo eventually fell mute and returned to ground zero we would embrace the unknown. This world of potential confusion, fear, and hesitation would become a place of excitement for the opportunity to live life, this only life, in the best way possible, despite the unknowns.

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